// The Genesis
FROM A 6
TO A 9.
One tool. One year. One marriage restored.
THE BREAKING POINT.
2023 nearly destroyed us. We went from surviving to suffocating.
It didn’t start with a marriage crisis. It started with everything else falling apart. Job transition, financial strain, and moving twice in nine months. We were burned out and emotionally bankrupt.
There was a day—maybe the worst day—where we both took off our wedding rings. The distance between us wasn’t measured in feet anymore. It was measured in years of damage.
Eventually, we stopped fighting. We just got cold. Stonewalling. It felt like self-protection, but it was just another form of death.
WHAT I
COULDN'T SEE.
I was defending, justifying, and dismissing the very people I was called to protect.
// Blindspot 01
Non-Verbal Contempt
She saw it in my face. I thought I was fine; she experienced dismissiveness.
// Blindspot 02
Survival Mode
I used 'providing' as a justification for being emotionally unavailable.
// Blindspot 03
The Security Gap
My daughter told me: 'Dad, we don't walk into church together.' I saw logistics; she saw insecurity.
THE WATERSHED MOMENT.
I finally broke. I stopped defending. I owned it all. Not a surface-level "I'm sorry," but deep, watershed repentance.
That’s when everything shifted. Not because I had a tool yet. Because my heart changed first.
I began biblical counseling and I was ready for God to touch whatever needed to be redeemed. Keep was built to sustain that change.
BACK FROM
THE DEAD.
From a 6 to a 9 wasn’t a lightning bolt. It was 365 days of incremental shifts. Arguments stopped escalating as high—we still had conflict, but the damage decreased.
Conversations went deeper; we moved from defending our positions to sharing our hearts. Someone asked me recently, "What does it feel like now?" I said: We came back from the dead.
// The Tool's Purpose
I built a tool to keep us from ever getting back to that fragile place ever again. It’s the rhythm that sustains our restoration.
THE MISSION
IS A 10.
A 10 isn’t perfection. It’s when your marriage is healthy enough that you are helping other couples flourish.
God’s design is to help people through people. If I keep this to myself, that’s just another form of selfishness. My family’s crisis becomes your family’s catalyst.
Jordan Valverde
Husband. Father of Six. Founder.
START
HERE.
"Maybe you’re at a 6 right now. Maybe lower. You can’t fix what you can’t see, but if you create a safe way for them to tell you the truth, transformation becomes possible."